He had discovered that his lower spine was basically collapsing in on itself. The nerves were malformed into his legs. This was causing him incredible pain. Sometimes the pain was so severe that he couldn't walk.
One of his teachers in college begged him to play a small role in a play. Nyle Smith was his name. Acting was his passion. He was rather embarrassed to play a tiny role in a play that was in a tiny theater. He was used to accolades for great big parts in important plays. He decided to put a NOM DE PLUME (a fancy way to say false name), on the program. Bingo Smith sounded like a name that NOBODY that knew him would recognize.
Nyle was embarrassed by his mobility issues. They set the blocking of the play in such a way that he didn't have to move much. He basically stood in one place to deliver his few lines.
"There are no small parts, only small actors," is a quote commonly used by those who love acting. Nyle proved that quote totally, completely true. He did so well that he was reviewed in newspapers across the region.
Then came the exciting news. He had been nominated for an extremely prestigious regional acting award. The "Irene Ryan Award" was coveted by any college student who felt that theater was not only in their blood but it just might BE the blood, the substance that flowed through their veins and gave their body sustenance.
Oh wait, let's change that...Nyle Smith had not been nominated. Hmmmm...what name do you think they used? Oh wait, the name on the program. BINGO SMITH was heartily acknowledged for his acting talent!
Nyle was unsure whether to laugh or cry, and I believe he did a little of both during the agonizing process of waiting, waiting for the process to be followed. He did not ultimately win the award. Being nominated was a HUGE thing in the uniquely insular world of college theater.
The problem was that NYLE SMITH was NOT nominated. No, much to his everlasting chagrin "BINGO SMITH." was the nominee.
That nickname stuck to him like a burr on a fluffy dog (wait, isn't there a SONG about a dog named Bingo?) Nyle grew to enjoy that nickname. Bingo...is a nickname that I called him from time to time.
Thank BINGO SMITH for being such an astounding actor, but better still, being an astounding man!
Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass....it's about learning to dance in the rain!
Friday, March 28, 2014
Thursday, March 27, 2014
A Mother's Hands
Remarkable contrivances hands. They help you to scratch, eat, clean, write, and about a million other things. Just for a minute hold your hands up and look at them in the light. Now stop and think, what do YOU do with your hands?
The child was about 7, nervous, speaking in his Primary group at church. (Primary is like Sunday School for children of 3 to 12 years of age). He stumbled along in his speech for a minute, and then it happened. He looked at the group and froze. Full on panic filled his young features.
Before someone in the group could rescue him his Mother was by his side. I had not noticed that she was there silently observing, and sitting with a group of young children. A long standing Mom myself of two beautiful daughters my memory quickly reached backwards. I remembered the way that I had handled such terror.
Then an ordinary thing made me catch my breath, and tears welled up in my eyes. This young, lovely Mom did not rush in and take over her son's speech. He looked up at her with love, she looked back at him with love. Then she put her hand on the boys shoulder and just stood next to him.
Encouraged by his Mother the boy finished the talk. When he stumbled a bit at the very end she did lean down and whispered the last words to him.
I was playing the piano for the children to sing. I had a very difficult time playing the next songs. My eyes were misted, my soul filled.
My Mother is 95 years old. She weighs around 95 pounds. At 5 ft. 6 in. that is far too thin. She is frail, she is weary, she is longing to return to my Papa who passed away 23 years ago.
Last night I went to visit Mama at bedtime. Living in a Retirement Center she doesn't live far from her family. She was already in bed slightly asleep. I awakened her gently. As always she smiled up at me. I happen to know that I AM her favorite child. At least until one of her other two children are around. Then THEY are her favorite children.
The bedtime ritual that our family practiced has become reversed. For all those years that Mama would come to OUR bedsides, sing, tell stories, pray, we now come to HER bedside, and sing, read scriptures, and pray. At first I thought it was to comfort her, and I suppose that there is a little measure in that. I have come to realize that comfort flows to ME as I tuck her in.
I use some comforting oils on her hands, her forehead. I massage those Mother's hands. They are so frail now. The veins stand out like mighty highways on the land. The skin is elegantly wrinkled about the tiny bones. After I massage her hands she touches my cheek. At 57 she still brings me peace, just by touching my face with those hands.
I sing to her, I pray for and about her, and then I prepare to leave. I hug her, and we don't want to let go. The everydayness of life invades our quiet oasis of peace and love. I leave reluctantly but gratefully knowing that there are people there that will care well for her.
As I drive home I think of how those hands, comforted me, held me, guided me, and a few times chastised me by swatted by backside. My soul fills with joy at the exquisite beauty of a Mother's hands!
The child was about 7, nervous, speaking in his Primary group at church. (Primary is like Sunday School for children of 3 to 12 years of age). He stumbled along in his speech for a minute, and then it happened. He looked at the group and froze. Full on panic filled his young features.
Before someone in the group could rescue him his Mother was by his side. I had not noticed that she was there silently observing, and sitting with a group of young children. A long standing Mom myself of two beautiful daughters my memory quickly reached backwards. I remembered the way that I had handled such terror.
Then an ordinary thing made me catch my breath, and tears welled up in my eyes. This young, lovely Mom did not rush in and take over her son's speech. He looked up at her with love, she looked back at him with love. Then she put her hand on the boys shoulder and just stood next to him.
Encouraged by his Mother the boy finished the talk. When he stumbled a bit at the very end she did lean down and whispered the last words to him.
I was playing the piano for the children to sing. I had a very difficult time playing the next songs. My eyes were misted, my soul filled.
My Mother is 95 years old. She weighs around 95 pounds. At 5 ft. 6 in. that is far too thin. She is frail, she is weary, she is longing to return to my Papa who passed away 23 years ago.
Last night I went to visit Mama at bedtime. Living in a Retirement Center she doesn't live far from her family. She was already in bed slightly asleep. I awakened her gently. As always she smiled up at me. I happen to know that I AM her favorite child. At least until one of her other two children are around. Then THEY are her favorite children.
The bedtime ritual that our family practiced has become reversed. For all those years that Mama would come to OUR bedsides, sing, tell stories, pray, we now come to HER bedside, and sing, read scriptures, and pray. At first I thought it was to comfort her, and I suppose that there is a little measure in that. I have come to realize that comfort flows to ME as I tuck her in.
I use some comforting oils on her hands, her forehead. I massage those Mother's hands. They are so frail now. The veins stand out like mighty highways on the land. The skin is elegantly wrinkled about the tiny bones. After I massage her hands she touches my cheek. At 57 she still brings me peace, just by touching my face with those hands.
I sing to her, I pray for and about her, and then I prepare to leave. I hug her, and we don't want to let go. The everydayness of life invades our quiet oasis of peace and love. I leave reluctantly but gratefully knowing that there are people there that will care well for her.
As I drive home I think of how those hands, comforted me, held me, guided me, and a few times chastised me by swatted by backside. My soul fills with joy at the exquisite beauty of a Mother's hands!
Monday, March 24, 2014
Casual Sex???
Casual sex. The connection of these two words drives me slightly mad. Casual, meaning not formal, with no commitment or long term concern. Sex? Well if you are not certain what that is, please close this post...quickly!
Here is the practical aspect of this idea. I go on a date (still really, really weird to even consider after being married to the man that I love for 27 years), and we have a lovely dinner, speak about our various likes and dislikes, and then we go to one of our homes and get naked? REALLY?? First of all, NOBODY in my lifetime will ever be frightened by the sight of my naked verging on elderly body. But more importantly, to me this action is far too intimate to share with a partial stranger.
Oh I know some wonderful young people might read my blog and say, "It's not like that for us. You're only young once. It doesn't hurt anyone as long as it's consensual. This lady is just an old prude."
Let's examine the possibilities that sex brings. Creation? Does anyone stop and think that this activity has the possibility of creating NEW LIFE? In my life there has been nothing more powerful, connecting, and magical than the loving action between my husband and I as we created our beloved daughters. They are grown now I still look at them and think of the love that created them.
My sweetie used to say, "I will NEVER create another human being to come to the world with less than perfect circumstances. Any children that I create will come to a family filled with love."
I'm stunned and appalled when I watch all the television shows that the sobbing women are there to determine the paternity of their children. They don't know for certain who the Father is, because they had sex with multiple partners during that time.
It does seem practical to me to say, "If you're going to risk creating a child...make CERTAIN who the Papa is! There is a way to do that you know. Monogamy may be considered old fashioned in today's world. So let's look at the physical consequences of multiple sexual partners, not my ideas about morality.
Sexually transmitted diseases are a threat that have multiple heads. It rather reminds me of a Greek myth where there was a creature that when you cut off it's head it would grow two back. There are so many dangers out there. Aids? Herpes (which can lead to cancer), Unwanted pregnancy, and ever so many more.
I have been told ad nauseum that it is simply impossible to save sexual experiences for after marriage, or at the very least until you are in a committed relationship. I have a very old fashioned word to say to that idea...BOLOGNA! We are sentient creatures with opposable thumbs. We ARE CAPABLE of reason and intelligence. We do not HAVE TO be dictated to by our hormones.
Now there is a group that says, "Sex is a very healthy activity." They have forgotten the most important part of that comment, "Sex is a very healthy activity, when it is engaged in with a committed, connected partner!" When you participate in sex with multiple partners you are literally playing Russian Roulette, not knowing when a random bullet will catch you with a deadly consequence.
Repression? For nearly 60 years I have heard over, and over, and over again that remaining celibate makes you repressed, unable to fully experience life. I would say again with force, BOLOGNA! I still enjoy listening to pop music in America. I enjoy most types of music. On the other hand some of the lyrics make me extremely cross. "Let's go all the way tonight, no regrets, just love?" Or here is a goody, It begins, "Tonight, we are young, so let's set the world on fire..So tonight, when the bar closes and you feel like falling down, I'll carry you home my love." He carries her home because she's too sloppy drunk to return home on her own power. Loving isn't it?
How many times will the young be sucked in to the idea, you are only young once. So you need to experience sex, drugs, drinking, cigarettes, anywhere that your hormones, and desires lead you. The fallacy of this is obvious, because that attitude may insure that not only are you only young once, you probably will never GROW OLD!
There is an enormous difference between love and lust!! LUST is the drive, the throb of your hormones telling you, do whatever you want to. Have sex with anyone. How many times have we all heard the line, "If you loved me you would...?" So to prove your love your partner expects you to compromise your values? That is lust.
Love...love is what makes you pull together as a couple after 21 years of marriage, and 22, and 23, and 50 and 60 etc. Love is the power that gives vitality and support to this life. Last night I visited the Care Center where my 95 year old Mama lives. My girls and I took her for a spin in her wheelchair. There was a lovely couple in the hall and we began to chat. She was in a wheelchair. He was pushing the wheelchair, even though he was 89 years of age. He told us, "I've been married to this lady for 60 years. I love her more now than I did on our wedding day." NOW THAT, is love!
Lust? Lust is a very cheap shoddy imitation of love. Lust drives otherwise intelligent human beings into all sorts of compromises. Lust is as old as the earth. This idea is well illustrated by the story of King David in the Bible. He had EVERYTHING! He was ridiculously wealthy, he commanded a kingdom. He had countless wives and concubines. Yet on one, "I'm bored," kind of nights he strolled on the roof of his palace. (It was much cooler up there in the night breezes than it was in his enormous palace.
Across the street was a very large home. There on that roof, where he could see, was his neighbor Uriah's wife taking a bath. (Seems like it's lacking privacy to me, but again cooler up there.) Good old fashioned lust hit him with a vengeance. He lusted after his neighbor's wife, even though he had HUNDREDS of women already committed to him!
His neighbor had only ONE wife. David had his neighbor, an officer in his army (and a good one according to the narration), put at the front of the action so that he was killed. Then he proceeded to marry Bathsheba. Does this seem like a recipe for LOVE? Or a result of LUST? He never forgave himself for killing a neighbor, a friend, to take his one wife. So he spends the rest of his life miserable, even though he is married to Bathsheba.
I give this example to show that this situation is NOT NEW! It is as old as the world. If I could just reach one person...young or old, and prevent them from facing unnecessary consequences due to giving in to lust instead of practicing love, it would make me ever so happy!
I wish that I could shout in a voice loud enough to be heard all across the world, "Lust is NOT love. There are ALWAYS consequences when sex is considered casual." Lacking that power, I will write a post in my blog hoping that someone, somewhere will read it and change their lives.
I have not even started on the emotional, spiritual consequences of casual, nothing really matters. , types of sex. I will write about that another time. Please friends in the world, WAKE UP! Making love is a beautiful, connecting action, one that can create family. Do not EVER take it lightly. Remember it as an incredible gift that must be used ever so carefully!
Here is the practical aspect of this idea. I go on a date (still really, really weird to even consider after being married to the man that I love for 27 years), and we have a lovely dinner, speak about our various likes and dislikes, and then we go to one of our homes and get naked? REALLY?? First of all, NOBODY in my lifetime will ever be frightened by the sight of my naked verging on elderly body. But more importantly, to me this action is far too intimate to share with a partial stranger.
Oh I know some wonderful young people might read my blog and say, "It's not like that for us. You're only young once. It doesn't hurt anyone as long as it's consensual. This lady is just an old prude."
Let's examine the possibilities that sex brings. Creation? Does anyone stop and think that this activity has the possibility of creating NEW LIFE? In my life there has been nothing more powerful, connecting, and magical than the loving action between my husband and I as we created our beloved daughters. They are grown now I still look at them and think of the love that created them.
My sweetie used to say, "I will NEVER create another human being to come to the world with less than perfect circumstances. Any children that I create will come to a family filled with love."
I'm stunned and appalled when I watch all the television shows that the sobbing women are there to determine the paternity of their children. They don't know for certain who the Father is, because they had sex with multiple partners during that time.
It does seem practical to me to say, "If you're going to risk creating a child...make CERTAIN who the Papa is! There is a way to do that you know. Monogamy may be considered old fashioned in today's world. So let's look at the physical consequences of multiple sexual partners, not my ideas about morality.
Sexually transmitted diseases are a threat that have multiple heads. It rather reminds me of a Greek myth where there was a creature that when you cut off it's head it would grow two back. There are so many dangers out there. Aids? Herpes (which can lead to cancer), Unwanted pregnancy, and ever so many more.
I have been told ad nauseum that it is simply impossible to save sexual experiences for after marriage, or at the very least until you are in a committed relationship. I have a very old fashioned word to say to that idea...BOLOGNA! We are sentient creatures with opposable thumbs. We ARE CAPABLE of reason and intelligence. We do not HAVE TO be dictated to by our hormones.
Now there is a group that says, "Sex is a very healthy activity." They have forgotten the most important part of that comment, "Sex is a very healthy activity, when it is engaged in with a committed, connected partner!" When you participate in sex with multiple partners you are literally playing Russian Roulette, not knowing when a random bullet will catch you with a deadly consequence.
Repression? For nearly 60 years I have heard over, and over, and over again that remaining celibate makes you repressed, unable to fully experience life. I would say again with force, BOLOGNA! I still enjoy listening to pop music in America. I enjoy most types of music. On the other hand some of the lyrics make me extremely cross. "Let's go all the way tonight, no regrets, just love?" Or here is a goody, It begins, "Tonight, we are young, so let's set the world on fire..So tonight, when the bar closes and you feel like falling down, I'll carry you home my love." He carries her home because she's too sloppy drunk to return home on her own power. Loving isn't it?
How many times will the young be sucked in to the idea, you are only young once. So you need to experience sex, drugs, drinking, cigarettes, anywhere that your hormones, and desires lead you. The fallacy of this is obvious, because that attitude may insure that not only are you only young once, you probably will never GROW OLD!
There is an enormous difference between love and lust!! LUST is the drive, the throb of your hormones telling you, do whatever you want to. Have sex with anyone. How many times have we all heard the line, "If you loved me you would...?" So to prove your love your partner expects you to compromise your values? That is lust.
Love...love is what makes you pull together as a couple after 21 years of marriage, and 22, and 23, and 50 and 60 etc. Love is the power that gives vitality and support to this life. Last night I visited the Care Center where my 95 year old Mama lives. My girls and I took her for a spin in her wheelchair. There was a lovely couple in the hall and we began to chat. She was in a wheelchair. He was pushing the wheelchair, even though he was 89 years of age. He told us, "I've been married to this lady for 60 years. I love her more now than I did on our wedding day." NOW THAT, is love!
Lust? Lust is a very cheap shoddy imitation of love. Lust drives otherwise intelligent human beings into all sorts of compromises. Lust is as old as the earth. This idea is well illustrated by the story of King David in the Bible. He had EVERYTHING! He was ridiculously wealthy, he commanded a kingdom. He had countless wives and concubines. Yet on one, "I'm bored," kind of nights he strolled on the roof of his palace. (It was much cooler up there in the night breezes than it was in his enormous palace.
Across the street was a very large home. There on that roof, where he could see, was his neighbor Uriah's wife taking a bath. (Seems like it's lacking privacy to me, but again cooler up there.) Good old fashioned lust hit him with a vengeance. He lusted after his neighbor's wife, even though he had HUNDREDS of women already committed to him!
His neighbor had only ONE wife. David had his neighbor, an officer in his army (and a good one according to the narration), put at the front of the action so that he was killed. Then he proceeded to marry Bathsheba. Does this seem like a recipe for LOVE? Or a result of LUST? He never forgave himself for killing a neighbor, a friend, to take his one wife. So he spends the rest of his life miserable, even though he is married to Bathsheba.
I give this example to show that this situation is NOT NEW! It is as old as the world. If I could just reach one person...young or old, and prevent them from facing unnecessary consequences due to giving in to lust instead of practicing love, it would make me ever so happy!
I wish that I could shout in a voice loud enough to be heard all across the world, "Lust is NOT love. There are ALWAYS consequences when sex is considered casual." Lacking that power, I will write a post in my blog hoping that someone, somewhere will read it and change their lives.
I have not even started on the emotional, spiritual consequences of casual, nothing really matters. , types of sex. I will write about that another time. Please friends in the world, WAKE UP! Making love is a beautiful, connecting action, one that can create family. Do not EVER take it lightly. Remember it as an incredible gift that must be used ever so carefully!
Tuesday, March 18, 2014
A Buoyant Bum?
Language is constantly changing, rearranging. The English language in my lifetime has exploded. Or maybe it's the American language that has grown so very, very fast. Whether English or American I think you'll agree that it has gotten really, really BIG!
Bum...in my childhood referred to both a homeless person AND to your gluteus muscles both maximus and minimus. In this post I'm going to use the later definition of bum.
As a small child my Father determined that I WOULD learn to swim. There were two impediments. #1. I was and am allergic to chlorine. #2. My bum. I think I just heard someone say, "Your WHAT?" Please refer to paragraph two above.
My parents were the type of people who believed that little things like allergies were not permanent blockades. They believed that there was some way, some possible way to control my symptoms so that I could live a relatively normal life. Thank Heavens for parents like that.
So back to my bum. My first swimming lessons were scheduled before I reached the double digit age of 10. That one did not work because I developed pneumonia, possibly from swimming in chlorine...hmmm. The 2nd set of lessons (we're not going to let a little thing like pneumonia stop us, right?) went much better. Medical science had developed better antihistamines. I did very well indeed until....until I discovered that I could not physically dive head first into the pool.
Oh I COULD put my head into the water first. That was the easy part. The hard part was getting the rest of me to follow. The minute that my bum reached the point in the water where it was supposed to follow my head, neck, and torso under the water, my buoyant bottom floated gleefully to the top of the water and the rest of me followed.
I repeated this experience, over, and over, and over, until my 20's when I determined that for whatever reason I was not going to be able to dive in my lifetime. On a positive note (my parents were all for focusing on the positive), I probably would not drown...my bottom was more successful than a life preserver at keeping me atop the water. On the downside, (tiny little pun intended) if I was in the water face down, my bum would keep me buoyant, but my face would be down in the water! EPIC FAIL.
Of course any one that reads my blog knows that I am extremely fond of drawing analogies. Here is the analogy. Life has a very nasty way of pushing us down, down, down, and down, possibly a thousand times or more (depending on if you live to be 95 like my Mommy or 54 like my husband). What happens when you are pushed down under that water? Do you just stay there? That would be a negative choice, unless dolphins have learned how to read and are now reading my blog. Dolphins would be OK under water....there may be another analogy in that thought, but I think we'll skip it.
My buoyant bum is a wonderful gift to me, because it never allows me to STAY down. It makes me pop up from the water like I have a life preserver attached. That is as it should be. We need to keep a spirit of buoyancy in life. Nobody can survive for long in this life without knowing how to bounce back up from the tragedies, and sometimes just the plain old everydayness of life.
If you are NOT blessed with a buoyant bum...(so sorry for you...no just kidding) put buoyancy in your heart, or in your head, and just keep popping up from the watery trials of life, over, and over, and over again.
If you feel that life is hopeless and it will never get better...you are wrong. After all...the antihistamines now are amazing!
Bum...in my childhood referred to both a homeless person AND to your gluteus muscles both maximus and minimus. In this post I'm going to use the later definition of bum.
As a small child my Father determined that I WOULD learn to swim. There were two impediments. #1. I was and am allergic to chlorine. #2. My bum. I think I just heard someone say, "Your WHAT?" Please refer to paragraph two above.
My parents were the type of people who believed that little things like allergies were not permanent blockades. They believed that there was some way, some possible way to control my symptoms so that I could live a relatively normal life. Thank Heavens for parents like that.
So back to my bum. My first swimming lessons were scheduled before I reached the double digit age of 10. That one did not work because I developed pneumonia, possibly from swimming in chlorine...hmmm. The 2nd set of lessons (we're not going to let a little thing like pneumonia stop us, right?) went much better. Medical science had developed better antihistamines. I did very well indeed until....until I discovered that I could not physically dive head first into the pool.
Oh I COULD put my head into the water first. That was the easy part. The hard part was getting the rest of me to follow. The minute that my bum reached the point in the water where it was supposed to follow my head, neck, and torso under the water, my buoyant bottom floated gleefully to the top of the water and the rest of me followed.
I repeated this experience, over, and over, and over, until my 20's when I determined that for whatever reason I was not going to be able to dive in my lifetime. On a positive note (my parents were all for focusing on the positive), I probably would not drown...my bottom was more successful than a life preserver at keeping me atop the water. On the downside, (tiny little pun intended) if I was in the water face down, my bum would keep me buoyant, but my face would be down in the water! EPIC FAIL.
Of course any one that reads my blog knows that I am extremely fond of drawing analogies. Here is the analogy. Life has a very nasty way of pushing us down, down, down, and down, possibly a thousand times or more (depending on if you live to be 95 like my Mommy or 54 like my husband). What happens when you are pushed down under that water? Do you just stay there? That would be a negative choice, unless dolphins have learned how to read and are now reading my blog. Dolphins would be OK under water....there may be another analogy in that thought, but I think we'll skip it.
My buoyant bum is a wonderful gift to me, because it never allows me to STAY down. It makes me pop up from the water like I have a life preserver attached. That is as it should be. We need to keep a spirit of buoyancy in life. Nobody can survive for long in this life without knowing how to bounce back up from the tragedies, and sometimes just the plain old everydayness of life.
If you are NOT blessed with a buoyant bum...(so sorry for you...no just kidding) put buoyancy in your heart, or in your head, and just keep popping up from the watery trials of life, over, and over, and over again.
If you feel that life is hopeless and it will never get better...you are wrong. After all...the antihistamines now are amazing!
Thursday, February 27, 2014
Do You Need a Visual?
I did not need glasses. My vision was clear. Then one day I noticed that the print in books, magazines, and especially the small print at the bottom of the page, was more and more difficult to read.
My brother who is 10 years older than I am has worn reading glasses since his late 40's. I used to tease him about how silly he looked with glasses worn at the end of his nose so that he could look over them. Sigh...it is not tasty in the least when you have to eat the words that you have indiscriminately used!
So I bought a pair of slide to the end of your nose reading glasses. I think they look better on my brother than they do on my face!
Vision...it's one of our senses which also include, taste, touch, and hearing. I believe there is one sense that I'm forgetting, maybe it's memory?
I read a story about a man who was born blind. He had a job that he enjoyed, a happy social life, and was considered very successful.
Then he went to the eye doctor. He heard about an amazing miraculous surgery that could possibly restore vision to the blind. He had mixed emotions about the idea. Who needs vision when they have NEVER had it and they are happy as they are? His well meaning friends, and family encouraged him to have the surgery.
He did, it was successful, and he retreated to his home and nothing could get him to leave it. He had constant headaches. His brain that had never had the stimulus of vision was violently overwhelmed. Depression followed on the heels of this huge change in his life.
Finally he was referred to a good counselor. The therapist was able to help him work through the psychological minefield of learning to live with a sense that he had not had for around 3 decades. Everyone had told him how wonderful it would be to see. Imagine his disappointment, and frustration when vision almost ruined his life!
This story did have a happy ever after. Slowly he was able to teach his brain how to respond positively to such a new skill set.
Vision is a sense that we often take for granted. Most of us will need some sort of visual assistance at some point in our lives. Glasses, or contacts make life easier when we need them.
Other types of visual assistance include microscopes, to help us see things at a cellular level, telescopes, to help us observe the Heavens over our heads, and magnifying glasses, to extend our ability to read things too small for our natural eye to witness.
It is very common for us to believe that our senses do NOT lie. We believe that if we can taste it, touch it, see it, or hear it, then it is real! Sometimes we extend this dynamic to our emotions. If you don't feel like washing the dishes, or going for a walk our emotions tell us that we shouldn't do that activity.
This idea can also be related to death. We can't see a spirit, or soul, or life force, whatever you wish to call the essence that leaves our bodies when we die. Not one of our earthly senses can quantify that the person that used to inhabit their body still exists without their body. The idea that follows says if using our senses can't quantify something it simply does not, CAN NOT exist.
Let's return for a moment to the realization that our regular vision also can't see a cell that we place under a microscope. Our regular vision can't see stars that are light years away from us so we use a most useful tool, the telescope. Before these devices were invented there was a wealth of information that we simply could not learn.
When my beloved husband died I could see with my mortal eyes the exact moment when his spirit left his body. Oh I couldn't SEE his spirit. I personally believe that spirit matter is so refined, so delicate that our all too human eyes can't behold that dimension, that type of energy.
I could SEE the difference in his body when his essence left. There was no expression on his face. Yet I could FEEL him still there with us. I could FEEL that fine, spiritual essence still present with us, his family.
Do not make the mistake of assuming that our senses do not lie. As Ebenezer Scrooge says in "Christmas Carol," when he is confronted by the tortured spirit of his dead business partner, "A little thing can make the senses cheat. A bit of underdone potato, a piece of bread. There is more of gravy than grave about you..."
We all agree that there are methods to sharpen our senses. Yet you are cheated from much of the intangible wonders of life if you believe ONLY what your senses quantify. Think about this idea. When we are born, do we come from nothing? When we die, do we return to nothing? We have technological wonders that are being discovered each and every day. Maybe some day we WILL have a measure that opens our view to the spiritual realities. Just think of having a good visit with your expired Grandma and finding out why she seemed so distant and cold, or why she was so loving, and warm.
Put on your spiritual glasses today and envision those you love that have died. Imagine that they are healthy, happy, and busy ministering to those that they loved on this earth. If we can see cells, and stars, and print with assistance, then maybe we will one day have a type of visual assistance that helps us to see our beloved friends and family that have died.
Until that remarkable discovery is made remember, just because you can't use your physical senses to experience something does not negate the experience. When you cross from the realm of evidentiary experience, to something your senses can't explain that is faith. We have faith that scientists can SEE cells (even though we may never have had the experience). We have faith that scientists can SEE those planetary bodies so very far away (even though we may never have had the experience). When we can't prove or experience something through our mortal senses, put on your spiritual glasses.
"Faith is the evidence of things NOT seen." Let's all use our faith glasses today to experience the wonder of things NOT seen.
My brother who is 10 years older than I am has worn reading glasses since his late 40's. I used to tease him about how silly he looked with glasses worn at the end of his nose so that he could look over them. Sigh...it is not tasty in the least when you have to eat the words that you have indiscriminately used!
So I bought a pair of slide to the end of your nose reading glasses. I think they look better on my brother than they do on my face!
Vision...it's one of our senses which also include, taste, touch, and hearing. I believe there is one sense that I'm forgetting, maybe it's memory?
I read a story about a man who was born blind. He had a job that he enjoyed, a happy social life, and was considered very successful.
Then he went to the eye doctor. He heard about an amazing miraculous surgery that could possibly restore vision to the blind. He had mixed emotions about the idea. Who needs vision when they have NEVER had it and they are happy as they are? His well meaning friends, and family encouraged him to have the surgery.
He did, it was successful, and he retreated to his home and nothing could get him to leave it. He had constant headaches. His brain that had never had the stimulus of vision was violently overwhelmed. Depression followed on the heels of this huge change in his life.
Finally he was referred to a good counselor. The therapist was able to help him work through the psychological minefield of learning to live with a sense that he had not had for around 3 decades. Everyone had told him how wonderful it would be to see. Imagine his disappointment, and frustration when vision almost ruined his life!
This story did have a happy ever after. Slowly he was able to teach his brain how to respond positively to such a new skill set.
Vision is a sense that we often take for granted. Most of us will need some sort of visual assistance at some point in our lives. Glasses, or contacts make life easier when we need them.
Other types of visual assistance include microscopes, to help us see things at a cellular level, telescopes, to help us observe the Heavens over our heads, and magnifying glasses, to extend our ability to read things too small for our natural eye to witness.
It is very common for us to believe that our senses do NOT lie. We believe that if we can taste it, touch it, see it, or hear it, then it is real! Sometimes we extend this dynamic to our emotions. If you don't feel like washing the dishes, or going for a walk our emotions tell us that we shouldn't do that activity.
This idea can also be related to death. We can't see a spirit, or soul, or life force, whatever you wish to call the essence that leaves our bodies when we die. Not one of our earthly senses can quantify that the person that used to inhabit their body still exists without their body. The idea that follows says if using our senses can't quantify something it simply does not, CAN NOT exist.
Let's return for a moment to the realization that our regular vision also can't see a cell that we place under a microscope. Our regular vision can't see stars that are light years away from us so we use a most useful tool, the telescope. Before these devices were invented there was a wealth of information that we simply could not learn.
When my beloved husband died I could see with my mortal eyes the exact moment when his spirit left his body. Oh I couldn't SEE his spirit. I personally believe that spirit matter is so refined, so delicate that our all too human eyes can't behold that dimension, that type of energy.
I could SEE the difference in his body when his essence left. There was no expression on his face. Yet I could FEEL him still there with us. I could FEEL that fine, spiritual essence still present with us, his family.
Do not make the mistake of assuming that our senses do not lie. As Ebenezer Scrooge says in "Christmas Carol," when he is confronted by the tortured spirit of his dead business partner, "A little thing can make the senses cheat. A bit of underdone potato, a piece of bread. There is more of gravy than grave about you..."
We all agree that there are methods to sharpen our senses. Yet you are cheated from much of the intangible wonders of life if you believe ONLY what your senses quantify. Think about this idea. When we are born, do we come from nothing? When we die, do we return to nothing? We have technological wonders that are being discovered each and every day. Maybe some day we WILL have a measure that opens our view to the spiritual realities. Just think of having a good visit with your expired Grandma and finding out why she seemed so distant and cold, or why she was so loving, and warm.
Put on your spiritual glasses today and envision those you love that have died. Imagine that they are healthy, happy, and busy ministering to those that they loved on this earth. If we can see cells, and stars, and print with assistance, then maybe we will one day have a type of visual assistance that helps us to see our beloved friends and family that have died.
Until that remarkable discovery is made remember, just because you can't use your physical senses to experience something does not negate the experience. When you cross from the realm of evidentiary experience, to something your senses can't explain that is faith. We have faith that scientists can SEE cells (even though we may never have had the experience). We have faith that scientists can SEE those planetary bodies so very far away (even though we may never have had the experience). When we can't prove or experience something through our mortal senses, put on your spiritual glasses.
"Faith is the evidence of things NOT seen." Let's all use our faith glasses today to experience the wonder of things NOT seen.
Monday, February 24, 2014
Hey Good Lookin' What You Got Cookin'?
Humming a cheerful tune Grandma Howard tied her self-made ruffled apron around her waist. She couldn't decide which she enjoyed more, the preparing of a meal, or the eating of the meal. She tried to be careful about the things that she ate. Sugar was an enemy to her body. She did love dessert so she learned to make desserts that had more fruit and less sugar.
Grandma gave thanks to God for the lovely sunshine yellow of her kitchen. A remodeling had just been finished and everything looked new, shiny, and happy. Even on gloomy weather days her kitchen was bright and inviting.
Paging slowly Grandma looked through her recipe book. Three of her granddaughters would join her for lunch. Two of them were staying with her for a week. Her other granddaughter only lived a mile away. The girls were all about the same age.
Grandma was excited when she found an old classic recipe for sandwiches. Grandma no longer made many loaves of bread each week. Now she drove up the road to Gregory Clinton's Health Food Store and purchased their delicious bread. It had multiple types of grains, nuts, and it only had the tiniest hint of sugar.
Grandma Howard was excited when she found the recipe she'd been searching for. It was a sandwich filling recipe that her Mother had taught her to make. She could still hear her Mother's beloved voice, even though she had passed away many years before, teaching her how to make the recipe, and getting sidetracked with life stories as she taught. Her Mother had been a wonderful story teller. Grandma believed that she enjoyed the stories almost as much as cooking together with her Mother.
SANDWICH FILLINGS
1 tsp mustard yolks of 2 eggs
1 tsp salt 2 TBL water
1 pinch sugar 2 TBL vinegar
1 tsp flour 1/2 c cream
Mix the dry ingredients. Work into a paste with a little water. Beat yolks of egg slightly. Add vinegar and rest of water. Cook in a double boiler until mixture thickens. When cool add cream.
For a variation you can chop pitted green olives into small pieces and add it to the sandwich filling above.
Grandma was excited. She loved this recipe. It was simple, yet absolutely delicious. Grandma sometimes added a bit of finely chopped dill weed to the recipe.
Grandma called the three girls in from the field where they had been playing. There were two old, old, wagons in that field. The girls loved to dress up like pioneers and play as though they were crossing the plains.
She felt that it was essential that the young ladies learn how to properly set a table, and how to follow a recipe. Excitement sparkled in her heart and soul as she walked back to the house with the three, tiny, stalwart, pioneers..
Caroljoy and Dalea set the table. Cathy helped Grandma slice and dice. Grandma was assiduous in watching the three young girls to make certain that they put the fork on the proper side of the plate.
They sat down to eat. There was always a prayer of thanks at Grandma's house before food was eaten. She called on Cathy to bless the food and the day. Cathy was shy but always gave heartfelt prayers.
Grandma took a slow, careful, bite. Then she sat back with her eyes closed, her heart, and stomach rejoicing. She added a silent prayer along with Cathy's. Her prayer was, "Thank Thee oh God above for family to love, food to enjoy and eat, and the chance to pray to Thee...AMEN
Grandma gave thanks to God for the lovely sunshine yellow of her kitchen. A remodeling had just been finished and everything looked new, shiny, and happy. Even on gloomy weather days her kitchen was bright and inviting.
Paging slowly Grandma looked through her recipe book. Three of her granddaughters would join her for lunch. Two of them were staying with her for a week. Her other granddaughter only lived a mile away. The girls were all about the same age.
Grandma was excited when she found an old classic recipe for sandwiches. Grandma no longer made many loaves of bread each week. Now she drove up the road to Gregory Clinton's Health Food Store and purchased their delicious bread. It had multiple types of grains, nuts, and it only had the tiniest hint of sugar.
Grandma Howard was excited when she found the recipe she'd been searching for. It was a sandwich filling recipe that her Mother had taught her to make. She could still hear her Mother's beloved voice, even though she had passed away many years before, teaching her how to make the recipe, and getting sidetracked with life stories as she taught. Her Mother had been a wonderful story teller. Grandma believed that she enjoyed the stories almost as much as cooking together with her Mother.
SANDWICH FILLINGS
1 tsp mustard yolks of 2 eggs
1 tsp salt 2 TBL water
1 pinch sugar 2 TBL vinegar
1 tsp flour 1/2 c cream
Mix the dry ingredients. Work into a paste with a little water. Beat yolks of egg slightly. Add vinegar and rest of water. Cook in a double boiler until mixture thickens. When cool add cream.
For a variation you can chop pitted green olives into small pieces and add it to the sandwich filling above.
Grandma was excited. She loved this recipe. It was simple, yet absolutely delicious. Grandma sometimes added a bit of finely chopped dill weed to the recipe.
Grandma called the three girls in from the field where they had been playing. There were two old, old, wagons in that field. The girls loved to dress up like pioneers and play as though they were crossing the plains.
She felt that it was essential that the young ladies learn how to properly set a table, and how to follow a recipe. Excitement sparkled in her heart and soul as she walked back to the house with the three, tiny, stalwart, pioneers..
Caroljoy and Dalea set the table. Cathy helped Grandma slice and dice. Grandma was assiduous in watching the three young girls to make certain that they put the fork on the proper side of the plate.
They sat down to eat. There was always a prayer of thanks at Grandma's house before food was eaten. She called on Cathy to bless the food and the day. Cathy was shy but always gave heartfelt prayers.
Grandma took a slow, careful, bite. Then she sat back with her eyes closed, her heart, and stomach rejoicing. She added a silent prayer along with Cathy's. Her prayer was, "Thank Thee oh God above for family to love, food to enjoy and eat, and the chance to pray to Thee...AMEN
Saturday, February 22, 2014
THE END - OR IS IT?
The screen fades to the bold letters THE END. Still caught in the emotional grasp of the movie I slowly start to stir and recognize that my reality is NOT up on the screen. It always takes me awhile to shake the mood of a movie off.
My husband worked in film and theater for years. Early in our marriage he explained to me that it was disrespectful to walk out of a newly lit theater without staying to watch the credits. He said, "Even if you don't read the names, you honor their work by simply being there." (Maybe he didn't say the words exactly as I did, but the idea is the same).
Of course, I don't think that it showed further respect when the theater was empty and we went up to the section in front of the screen and danced, then he said loudly, "We own this theater!" (It was even more fun as we added first one daughter, then another, and then our neighborhood daughter joined in the fun). I loved Nyle's theater dancing tradition. It seemed as though our silliness bridged that sometimes painful gap between fantasy and reality. Armed with our own shenanigans we were better able to move back into life that sometimes contained very negative, harsh elements.
Now I come to you, those that read my blog. The movie has printed those words up on the screen, the theater lights come up, and what do you do? Do you feel blasted by the realities of your life? Do you feel like the end of a movie, or book, or any other page or act of your life, brings with it the ultimate realization, "Oh CRAP, THIS IS my reality?"
When we lived in Portland, I missed my family that lived two states away. Now that I live closer to my family I miss the beloved friends who became family in Portland. We ALL face THE END, over and over, and over in our lives. Think of the transitions in life, school, summer, grade school, middle school, high school, college, marriage, children, illness, financial ruin (I hope NONE of those reading this have faced the last two transitions that I have mentioned). Transitions in life are definitely similar to those last two words in the movie or book.
The next time that life hands you a transition. As an all too personal example, I did NOT expect my beloved husband of 27 years to pass away at 54. THE END was simply not a reality that I could imagine. I had longed all of my life for one man, and one love to last a lifetime. He WAS my one man, and my one love.
I have come to realize that whether I believe in eternal life, or the gift of memory this man that I loved more than my own life will live on. He lives on in the faces of our daughters. He lives on in the joy in my heart in remembering him. There will be no THE END in our love.
Whatever THE END that you are facing PLEASE take hope from my words that there IS hope, life, joy, friendship, love beyond what may seem like THE END. Especially if you are facing mental health challenges, please understand YOU ARE NOT ALONE! There is NO problem facing you that is worthy of ending your life. That is one THE END, that is NEVER a solution. Even if life does end beyond the grave, (and I know that it doesn't), can you imagine never kissing your spouse again, never hearing your children's laughter? Never hearing the rain tapping on your roof as you snuggle closer to your sweetheart cozy and safe?
I will end with one of my favorite quotes of all times from the play "Spoonriver Anthology." In it the people in a tiny cemetery come to life. They share their stories, and some share the lessons they learned. One woman speaks of having a heart condition all of her life. She marries her childhood sweetheart and the two struggle with a harsh environment on a tiny farm to keep body and soul together. They have 8 children and she tells that when things get too much for her weak heart she lies on the earth to feel the strength of it's rhythm below her until she feels strong enough to keep living. Her words seared my adolescent brain and still are just as powerful today, "Degenerate sons and daughters, life is too strong for you..." Life is strong...it can help us to become strong.
One thing I know with no doubt is that all of us, each and every human being on the planet is stronger TOGETHER. We can work together to make our homes better, our communities, better, and by doing this, make our WORLD better! There never needs to be an THE END for compassion, for empathy, or for simple caring.
My husband worked in film and theater for years. Early in our marriage he explained to me that it was disrespectful to walk out of a newly lit theater without staying to watch the credits. He said, "Even if you don't read the names, you honor their work by simply being there." (Maybe he didn't say the words exactly as I did, but the idea is the same).
Of course, I don't think that it showed further respect when the theater was empty and we went up to the section in front of the screen and danced, then he said loudly, "We own this theater!" (It was even more fun as we added first one daughter, then another, and then our neighborhood daughter joined in the fun). I loved Nyle's theater dancing tradition. It seemed as though our silliness bridged that sometimes painful gap between fantasy and reality. Armed with our own shenanigans we were better able to move back into life that sometimes contained very negative, harsh elements.
Now I come to you, those that read my blog. The movie has printed those words up on the screen, the theater lights come up, and what do you do? Do you feel blasted by the realities of your life? Do you feel like the end of a movie, or book, or any other page or act of your life, brings with it the ultimate realization, "Oh CRAP, THIS IS my reality?"
When we lived in Portland, I missed my family that lived two states away. Now that I live closer to my family I miss the beloved friends who became family in Portland. We ALL face THE END, over and over, and over in our lives. Think of the transitions in life, school, summer, grade school, middle school, high school, college, marriage, children, illness, financial ruin (I hope NONE of those reading this have faced the last two transitions that I have mentioned). Transitions in life are definitely similar to those last two words in the movie or book.
The next time that life hands you a transition. As an all too personal example, I did NOT expect my beloved husband of 27 years to pass away at 54. THE END was simply not a reality that I could imagine. I had longed all of my life for one man, and one love to last a lifetime. He WAS my one man, and my one love.
I have come to realize that whether I believe in eternal life, or the gift of memory this man that I loved more than my own life will live on. He lives on in the faces of our daughters. He lives on in the joy in my heart in remembering him. There will be no THE END in our love.
Whatever THE END that you are facing PLEASE take hope from my words that there IS hope, life, joy, friendship, love beyond what may seem like THE END. Especially if you are facing mental health challenges, please understand YOU ARE NOT ALONE! There is NO problem facing you that is worthy of ending your life. That is one THE END, that is NEVER a solution. Even if life does end beyond the grave, (and I know that it doesn't), can you imagine never kissing your spouse again, never hearing your children's laughter? Never hearing the rain tapping on your roof as you snuggle closer to your sweetheart cozy and safe?
I will end with one of my favorite quotes of all times from the play "Spoonriver Anthology." In it the people in a tiny cemetery come to life. They share their stories, and some share the lessons they learned. One woman speaks of having a heart condition all of her life. She marries her childhood sweetheart and the two struggle with a harsh environment on a tiny farm to keep body and soul together. They have 8 children and she tells that when things get too much for her weak heart she lies on the earth to feel the strength of it's rhythm below her until she feels strong enough to keep living. Her words seared my adolescent brain and still are just as powerful today, "Degenerate sons and daughters, life is too strong for you..." Life is strong...it can help us to become strong.
One thing I know with no doubt is that all of us, each and every human being on the planet is stronger TOGETHER. We can work together to make our homes better, our communities, better, and by doing this, make our WORLD better! There never needs to be an THE END for compassion, for empathy, or for simple caring.
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